How to play Minecraft with friends: 5 ways to connect for a multiplayer adventure

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Video games have been a forever-fun tradition from day one, offering countless titles for kids (and families) to lose themselves in for hours on end. 

And Minecraft has certainly made its mark on the gaming world—since its initial PC release, it is now more available than ever across different consoles including PS4, Nintendo Switch, and XBOX 360, and mobile devices. (Check out these mind-blowing stats about Minecraft.)

While even the most basic of Minecraft gameplay scenarios offers loads of entertainment - say, solo play with vanilla Minecraft - this expansion, the power of modding, and an increasing number of options to play the game with friends has certainly kicked things up a notch. 

From simply playing with others under the same roof, to connecting with friends who live across the country and even internationally, there are a few different ways to enjoy the ever-popular sandbox adventure—and each multiplayer experience offers its own unique benefits. 

How to play Minecraft with friends

To play Minecraft with friends, kids can choose from setting up a LAN, creating a private Minecraft server, playing Minecraft Realms, or even just splitting the screen on their favorite console.

Please note these instructions are intended to be carried out by parents, and kids shouldn’t attempt to set up LANs or private servers without parental guidance and/or permission. 


LAN stands for Local Area Network, and it’s a great option for playing Minecraft with friends when kids have company over and everyone is connected to the same WIFI. 

To get going, you will need a host computer that is powerful enough to run the game while also acting as the server for others, which might be tough. If you have one though, the LAN option stands out as a relatively quick setup. There’s an added benefit of online safety—music to any parent’s ears, given that the game-player pool is limited to those connected to the home’s WIFI. 

For instructions on how to play Minecraft on a LAN, check out these user-friendly guides:

Private Minecraft server

“Server” can be a scary word, especially when you have kids connecting to random public servers filled with strangers and unknowns. 

By setting up your own private server, though, much of that risk is mitigated, as you’ll have a much better grasp on who is connecting with and playing in your child’s worlds.

With that said, we are still talking IP addresses, so these instructions are meant for parents who are assisting their kids with setup. In other words, kids shouldn’t be going about any of this without parental permission.

Why is that? Setting up and running an online server means that anyone with your external IP address will be able to join your server and play in your Minecraft world. Naturally, that’s something for adults to keep an eye on. 

On that note, it’s also a good idea to keep a running list of who you and your kids are inviting to play on the server. Of course, the best way to ensure online play is as safe as possible is to only invite those you know and trust. 

A good way to think about it is: would you invite these people into your home physically? Going through this type of thought process will help reduce surprises and uncertainties. 

In terms of getting started, we won’t get too technical here, as we’ve already detailed a lot of what is needed to set up your own Minecraft server, but to summarize:

  • Verify you have the latest version of Java
  • Grab the server files from Mojang
  • Create a batch file to run the server
  • Agree to the EULA (End User License Agreement)
  • Launch the server
  • Join your server
  • Forward your port
  • Find your external IP address
  • Connect others to the server
  • Adjust settings in the file

This list of actions might look overwhelming to beginners; never fear! If you don’t have experience in this area, please do consult our more detailed instructions here.

If you would prefer to avoid this scenario altogether, we’ve got you covered as well. 

Minecraft Realms

Another option to consider is Minecraft Realms, which can be thought of as renting a Mojang server to allow for kids to play with their friends. 

While similar to setting up your own server, Realms allows for a much easier and perhaps even safer experience. For instance, in terms of console setup, players simply need to create a world and then click the “create” Realms button to kick-off the straightforward process. 

Then, in terms of safety, Realms has built-in protections. The only way for players to connect to a Realms world is via official invite, whereas with the server we described above, anyone with the IP address can jump in. 

So, if kids truly just want to play with close friends, Realms is a great option. 

These added benefits of Realms come at a cost, though; they require a monthly subscription of $7.99 for a max of 10 players per month (cheaper options are available for fewer players: more Realms overview here). 

There will also be differences in terms of the gameplay experience. For instance, according to, worlds in Realms live on and are accessible even when the creator is offline. That means anyone on the guest list can jump in and out at their will, which, on one hand, can be seen as a fun benefit. 

But on the other hand, for those who want to play with mods and plugins, Realms doesn’t currently support the capability of doing so. (Additional content, texture packs, skins, and more can be found with Realms Plus, though.)

If you’re still uncertain about which option is best for your child, VentureBeat breaks down the question of Realms vs. server

And here are a few additional resources to help!

Split screen console play

Last but certainly not least, for those who play Minecraft on the console the split screen feature is a great way for kids to game together. This feature displays a view for up to four different players at a time. 

This is a quick and easy way to start playing Minecraft with friends, not requiring any messing around with servers or having to play for Realms. The downside is, of course, players must play with only what’s available on consoles and need to share a single screen.

Actually, one more option

If you’re a follower of this blog, you know we are also big fans of the many educational benefits of Minecraft

You might also know that we are experts at blending tech education with fun! This is precisely why we have recently rolled out a few Minecraft-based, small group, after-school learning courses for kids to enjoy virtually—with friends!

From how to defeat the Ender Dragon to Minecraft Bed Wars, our after school course options allow your child to form a group of friends or join in with others to learn the latest in tech, with their favorite games and products. 

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Ryan manages blog content at iD Tech, starting with the company in 2008. He earned his MBA from Santa Clara University after obtaining his Bachelor’s degree from Arizona State. Connect on LinkedIn!